A few months ago Isaiah asked me about a purity ring. I thought it was kind of odd coming from him since he is in no way, shape, form, or fashion interested in girls yet; much less actually touching one. I put it in the back of my head for more thought later.
I thought about it some more and decided that making a commitment like he was wanting to make was one of those decisions best made before the time came.
So as of today, both kids are wearing shiny new silver rings. Isaiah's is a wide band that is etched with the words "TRUE LOVE WAITS" and 1 Timothy 4:12 (Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity). Arissa's is a thinner band etched on the inside with the words "I will wait for" and on the outside of the band etched with the words "my beloved". We had a conversation about how important the decision is to make and to stand by. I stressed that the rings weren't simply something shiny and pretty but an outward reminder of their personal decision and commitment to themselves.
The vision of the Silver Ring Thing is "to create a culture shift in America where abstinence becomes the norm again rather than the exception." (taken from the Silver Ring Thing website; click to access their website). Parents have more influence on their child's sexual decision making than anyone else. I know this is one area of their life I don't want to blow. They only get one shot. When it's gone there is no getting it back. So while they committed to remaining pure until their wedding day, I am committing to NOT be afraid to talk to them openly and honestly. It won't be easy...but nothing worth having ever is.